I am so excited to be part of Valerie’s team to help bring the “Still Standing Live” events to cities around the country! I read Valerie’s book “Still Standing After All The Tears” while I was at a women’s retreat more than two years ago and it changed my life. Like Valerie, I am also the mom of an addict so when Valerie described how she had lost herself trying to save her daughter from her addiction beast, every word resonated deep inside my heart as a mom. I had experienced so many of the same feelings of loss of self, fear, doubt, and deep sadness, as I watched my son descend into a life of homelessness and heroin addiction.
I realized that I had lost sight of an amazing life going on around me — but mostly without me. I have been married for 35 years. My husband and I have 3 children, 7 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. I spent many years so focused on my son’s addiction I was missing out on the joy I could have had with the rest of my family. They are everything to me and I’m so glad that now I can enjoy our time together.
I have grown deeper in my faith too, something I nearly lost in my confusion and anger. Now I can be with my church family and worship God with tears of joy (not despair) running down my face. I realized enjoying my friends, laughing, quietly drinking a cup of coffee over conversation and listening to them is an important part of who I am.
I have a circle of friends with the common bond of loving our addicted sons and daughters. We decided to go through the “Still Standing” workbook together and discovered while working through the 9 actions that they apply to much more than battling our co-dependent enabler beasts. These tools apply to almost every aspect of our day-to-day lives. As part of Valerie’s team I hope to facilitate others to create similar groups in their own areas. That is part of my vision — groups of people bonded by life — gaining the necessary tools, forming deep and lasting friendships, and putting the pieces of their lives back together to become the beautiful creation God intended them to be.
I look forward to getting to know you when you join the Still Standing Sisterhood and will be excited to meet each of you at a live event soon.