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Podcast EP34: Become a 10% of My Life Person

Imagine only allowing your "stuff" to take up 10% of your life? Imagine not being consumed by pain, sickness, heartbreak, your childhood, or anything else that is holding you back from being your best. Imagine if this negativity only took up 10% of your life!www.ValerieSilveira.com...

Podcast EP28: Choose Happiness

So many things can steal our joy - our happiness! It is a choice to find the courage to be happy again; and to stay happy. Join me as I share a section of my latest book, "Misery, You Don't Get My Company."https://www.valeriesilveira.com/product/misery-you-dont-get-my-company/www.ValerieSilveira.com...

Living Without My Daughter

Grief and loss are a part of the deal living on planet earth. Living without loved ones who are absent from our lives by circumstances, or death, leaves a gaping hole in our heart. How do I live with the grief of losing a child?...

EP28: Reclaim Your Life

Even if you are really down, depressed, or living in paralyzing fear, YOU can and must reclaim your life. It is the best thing you can do for everyone. You are a woman of courage and purpose and you are not alone! ...

Valerie’s Story

Moms of Addicts will especially connect with Valerie's story and be inspired by her journey."I stood up and took my life back while my daughter was very lost in the belly of her Beast, and again after the unimaginable."Subscribe to my YouTube Channel:...

EP22: Reclaim Your Life – Podcast

Even if you are really down, depressed, or living in paralyzing fear, YOU can and must reclaim your life. It is the best thing you can do for everyone. You are a woman of courage and purpose and you are not alone!www.ValerieSilveira.com...

EP19: Managing Disappointment

We all get disappointed by life, and by people. How can you manage those disappointments, or avoid them altogether? Join Valerie for this powerful message and WAYS in which you can manage disappointment.valeriesilveira.com...

EP18: Is Putting Yourself first Selfish?

Is putting yourself first "Selfish?" It is especially hard for women, and certainly moms to put ourselves anywhere near the top of the list and certainly, not AT THE TOP! Listen as Valerie explains how it just might be selfish to NOT put yourself at...

EP17: Social Media Warning

Be careful not to believe everything you see! Reality becomes distorted when we watch other people's lives on social media or in any other way. Help keep proper focus by listening to this message.ValerieSilveira.com...

EP14: Action #7 Stop Being a Control Freak

For those of us living with a codependent enabler Beast, this one is definitely a challenge! When life gets out of control, we tend to start controlling everything. The problem is, most things are out of our control. There is real power in letting go.valeriesilveira.com...

EP13: Action #6 Adjust Your Focus

When all hell breaks loose, we begin to focus on all the wrong things, and our entire focus becomes distorted. If you are the mom of an addict, like me, it gets really out of control. This lack of focus causes all sorts of problems...

EP10: Action #3 Put On Your Oxygen Mask

One of the hardest things when our self-esteem and self-worth have been sabotaged, is to give ourselves permission to matter! We often feel as if focusing on our needs is selfish. This is especially tough for women, and moms! If you self-destruct, you are not...

EP6: Taking Off the Cape

If you are wearing a Supermom (or Super something else) Cape in an effort to rescue or save another person, it may be time to take off the Cape. As the mom of an addict, I KNOW how difficult that can be, but learn why...

EP5: Managing Hope & Disappointment

Do you live with false hope, based on another person's actions or lack of action - followed by devastating disappointment? Join Valerie for another uplifting and empowering message on managing expectations and avoiding those unrealistic expectations followed by devastating disappointment.www.ValerieSilveira.com Here...

EP3: No More Excuses

Have you ever used the excuse, "It is easier said than done?" We all have! Of course everything is easier said than done! Take that excuse off the table, and learn how to stand up and make the sacrifices and do the work it will...

EP2: Choosing Courage

Courage very well could be the barrier between you and a life of happiness, peace, and purpose. It takes courage to shed the shame and guilt, to speak your truth, or to dare to be happy with a hole in your heart. Join me for...

EP1: Never in a Million Years

Are you in a place where you can hardly believe what has gone on in your life? That was me - riding the Roller Coaster From Hell as a result of my daughter's addiction. I was helpless, hopeless, and living in paralyzing fear! I could...

Misery, You Don’t Get My Company

I am super excited to announce my 4th book, "Misery, You Don't Get My Company: Finding the Courage to be Happy Again."This is my first book since my daughter Jamie (a.k.a. Jordan) was murdered in 2016. This has been, by far, the toughest book I...

Our First Still Standing Live Event!

Our first Still Standing Live event is in the history books!It was an amazing day of laughs, tears, inspiration, and hope. I was so honored to meet so many beautiful ladies, all linking arms and standing together.This is a short clip from the day.Next stop...

New Day Northwest TV Interview 2017

 ____________________Valerie Silveira is an Award-Winning Author, Empowerment Coach, International Speaker and Beast slayer. Through the devastation of losing her daughter over and over to the addiction Beast, and finally losing her to a senseless murder, Valerie empowers others to stand up and fight for their...

Moms of Addicts – Are You Playing God?

When someone you love is crashing, it is normal and natural to want to help. At some point, parents of addicts stop “helping” and begin playing God.You don’t mean to play God; you don’t even know you are doing it.This is not to say that...

Things You Never Thought You Would Survive

“If anything happened to one of my kids, I would be done. You would find me drooling in a corner somewhere.”Those are words I repeatedly used when my children were small. The mere thought of anything bad happening to them made me physically ill.During those...

Excruciatingly Painful Love

Nearly 13 years ago, my beautiful, athletic, artistic, funny, quick-witted daughter took a very wrong turn in her life. (Out of respect for her story, I choose to call her Jordan).  She left her safe, loving suburban life and made her way into a very...

The Old Woman in the Cave

I wrote a story in my book, “Still Standing After All the Tears,” about the Old Woman in the Cave. This story is a great depiction of how we feel while riding the Roller Coaster From Hell. It is the scary place where you might...

Mother’s Day for Moms of Addicts

Mother’s Day is not an easy day for many people. Some are at the age where their mothers have passed at an older age, while others lost theirs way too soon. There are those who never knew their mom.I have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day....

When the Scale Tips

Today is my daughter’s 30th birthday. It “should be” a day of celebration. We should go out to lunch; go to a spa; go shopping. We should take a trip down memory lane together. We should share 30 years of memories – mother and daughter...

Surviving the Holidays

My continuous encouragement is to Stand Up & Fight, but for many people, the holiday season might be more of a fight to survive.Although I am in a very different place this year than I was for many years, even for me, this is not...

Paralyzing Fear

Everybody has fears. I can pretty much guarantee you will not find me skydiving or bungee jumping. Some fears are healthy, and keep us from danger. Other fears are simply:F alseE videnceA ppearingR eal After all, most of the things that we fear, never happen. However,...

The Things Moms of Addicts Do For Love

I heard an old song the other day, “The Things We Do For Love.” I got to thinking about the things mothers of addicts do “for love.”We lie. Yes, not just the addicts, we lie too. We lie to ourselves about how bad things are,...

We Look Like You

It happened again; the same comment I had heard before. The look that did not need words to convey the message:“I can’t believe you would have a daughter who’s a drug addict.”When I told a friend about this, she asked sarcastically what a parent of...

Codependent Enabler Beast

Drug and alcohol addiction is devastating, not just for the addict, but also for their families and loved ones. The toughest thing is to accept that we are powerless to save our addicts from themselves. While we continue to love them, to have hope, and...

Shame, Guilt & Stigma

In anticipation of Jordan choosing rehab, I made some phone calls. I called a local well-known facility that we could not afford. Most rehabs have sliding scales, so I inquired as to a rate for their program for someone without financial means, and was told...

Keep Your Social Media Microscope in Focus

From the Award-Winning Book, "Still Standing After All the Tears."When all hell breaks loose, it’s natural for your perspective to get out of focus. During your darkest days, it will appear everyone but you has what you don’t have.Social media has allowed us to connect...

Still Standing After All the Tears

The Day You Can Never Imagine It was a sunny morning in August of 2004 as I headed home from a breakfast meeting.  When I pulled into the garage, I was surprised to see my husband’s car sitting on his side of the garage.  It was...

An Empty Seat at the Christmas Table

The song says, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year.”  For many people it is, but for countless others “It’s the most difficult time of the year.”For those who are homeless, estranged from family, broke, heartbroken, and just plain broken, the holidays are not...

Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda

When Jordan and Sean were young, I used to tell them, there are three people you really need to avoid: Coulda, shoulda and woulda. It would have served me well to listen to my own advice. Living with my Beast for nearly 13 years, I...

Put On Your Oxygen Mask

If you have traveled by air more than a handful of times, it is likely that you pay very little attention to the flight attendants as they go through the pre-flight safety demonstration. Next time you are on an airplane, and the flight attendants being...

Stand Up!

My son, Sean wrestled in junior high and high school.  As a parent, I think that was the most stressful sport I ever watched.  He played a lot of sports, most of them being team sports.  Sean was in the heavyweight division, and it was...

The Frantic Quest For Peace

Frantic is not exactly the word that comes to mind when one thinks of peace. I use that term a bit tongue in cheek, but it helps to illustrate how important it is to come to a place of peace no matter what kind of...

If It Was Possible, It Would Be Done

Are you exhausting yourself in an effort to save someone from themselves?  I was desperate to save my daughter from herself - to battle her drug Beast for her.  Jordan* told me what I wanted to hear.  If I had a dollar for every time...

Nine Actions to Battle Your Beast

Each Beast is different.  My daughter’s Beast is drug addiction.  My two-headed Beast is enabling & codependency.  I love my daughter and was desperate to “help” her.  The problem was that I wanted to kill her Beast, but she had learned to live with it. ...

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