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Make Sure 2019 is better than 2018

If 2018 wasn't so great, go into 2019 with tools that will ensure a better 2019! It's all about you taking proper Action! 2019 here you come!Watch Valerie's Latest Video on YouTube!Be sure to SUBSCRIBE, LIKE & SHARE!  ...

Do you suffer from FOMO? You need to read this!

Why FOMO is Not Good for YOU

Do you "suffer" from Fear of Missing Out? I say Suffer, because in the long run, FOMO is NOT Good for YOU!!Listen to Valerie's Latest Video on YouTube!Be sure to SUBSCRIBE, LIKE & SHARE! ...

Living Without My Daughter

Living Without My Daughter

Grief and loss are a part of the deal living on planet earth. Living without loved ones who are absent from our lives by circumstances, or death, leaves a gaping hole in our heart. How do I live with the grief of losing a child?...

Valerie Silveira's Story

Valerie’s Story

Moms of Addicts will especially connect with Valerie's story and be inspired by her journey."I stood up and took my life back while my daughter was very lost in the belly of her Beast, and again after the unimaginable."Subscribe to my YouTube Channel:...

Misery, You Don’t Get My Company

I am super excited to announce my 4th book, "Misery, You Don't Get My Company: Finding the Courage to be Happy Again."This is my first book since my daughter Jamie (a.k.a. Jordan) was murdered in 2016. This has been, by far, the toughest book I...

Our First Still Standing Live Event!

Our first Still Standing Live event is in the history books!It was an amazing day of laughs, tears, inspiration, and hope. I was so honored to meet so many beautiful ladies, all linking arms and standing together.This is a short clip from the day.Next stop...

Valerie's Second Appearance on New Day Northwest

New Day Northwest TV Interview 2017

 ____________________Valerie Silveira is an Award-Winning Author, Empowerment Coach, International Speaker and Beast slayer. Through the devastation of losing her daughter over and over to the addiction Beast, and finally losing her to a senseless murder, Valerie empowers others to stand up and fight for their...

Moms of Addicts – Are You Playing God?

When someone you love is crashing, it is normal and natural to want to help. At some point, parents of addicts stop “helping” and begin playing God.You don’t mean to play God; you don’t even know you are doing it.This is not to say that...

Things You Never Thought You Would Survive

“If anything happened to one of my kids, I would be done. You would find me drooling in a corner somewhere.”Those are words I repeatedly used when my children were small. The mere thought of anything bad happening to them made me physically ill.During those...

Excruciatingly Painful Love

Nearly 13 years ago, my beautiful, athletic, artistic, funny, quick-witted daughter took a very wrong turn in her life. (Out of respect for her story, I choose to call her Jordan).  She left her safe, loving suburban life and made her way into a very...

The Old Woman in the Cave

I wrote a story in my book, “Still Standing After All the Tears,” about the Old Woman in the Cave. This story is a great depiction of how we feel while riding the Roller Coaster From Hell. It is the scary place where you might...

Mother’s Day for Moms of Addicts

Mother’s Day is not an easy day for many people. Some are at the age where their mothers have passed at an older age, while others lost theirs way too soon. There are those who never knew their mom.I have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day....

When the Scale Tips

Today is my daughter’s 30th birthday. It “should be” a day of celebration. We should go out to lunch; go to a spa; go shopping. We should take a trip down memory lane together. We should share 30 years of memories – mother and daughter...

Surviving the Holidays

My continuous encouragement is to Stand Up & Fight, but for many people, the holiday season might be more of a fight to survive.Although I am in a very different place this year than I was for many years, even for me, this is not...

Paralyzing Fear

Everybody has fears. I can pretty much guarantee you will not find me skydiving or bungee jumping. Some fears are healthy, and keep us from danger. Other fears are simply:F alseE videnceA ppearingR eal After all, most of the things that we fear, never happen. However,...

The Things Moms of Addicts Do For Love

I heard an old song the other day, “The Things We Do For Love.” I got to thinking about the things mothers of addicts do “for love.”We lie. Yes, not just the addicts, we lie too. We lie to ourselves about how bad things are,...

We Look Like You

It happened again; the same comment I had heard before. The look that did not need words to convey the message:“I can’t believe you would have a daughter who’s a drug addict.”When I told a friend about this, she asked sarcastically what a parent of...

Stop allowing your Codependent Enabler Beast to run the show

Codependent Enabler Beast

Drug and alcohol addiction is devastating, not just for the addict, but also for their families and loved ones. The toughest thing is to accept that we are powerless to save our addicts from themselves. While we continue to love them, to have hope, and...

Let go of shame, guilt and stigma

Shame, Guilt & Stigma

In anticipation of Jordan choosing rehab, I made some phone calls. I called a local well-known facility that we could not afford. Most rehabs have sliding scales, so I inquired as to a rate for their program for someone without financial means, and was told...

Keep Your Social Media Microscope in Focus

Keep Your Social Media Microscope in Focus

From the Award-Winning Book, "Still Standing After All the Tears."When all hell breaks loose, it’s natural for your perspective to get out of focus. During your darkest days, it will appear everyone but you has what you don’t have.Social media has allowed us to connect...

Still Standing After All the Tears

Still Standing After All the Tears

The Day You Can Never Imagine It was a sunny morning in August of 2004 as I headed home from a breakfast meeting.  When I pulled into the garage, I was surprised to see my husband’s car sitting on his side of the garage.  It was...

Christmas is a tough time of year when someone is missing

An Empty Seat at the Christmas Table

The song says, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year.”  For many people it is, but for countless others “It’s the most difficult time of the year.”For those who are homeless, estranged from family, broke, heartbroken, and just plain broken, the holidays are not...

Coulda, Shoulda, and Woulda

Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda

When Jordan and Sean were young, I used to tell them, there are three people you really need to avoid: Coulda, shoulda and woulda. It would have served me well to listen to my own advice. Living with my Beast for nearly 13 years, I...

Put On Your Oxygen Mask

If you have traveled by air more than a handful of times, it is likely that you pay very little attention to the flight attendants as they go through the pre-flight safety demonstration. Next time you are on an airplane, and the flight attendants being...

If you are down on the mat, and you don't decide to stand up and fight, you will be pinned!

Stand Up!

My son, Sean wrestled in junior high and high school.  As a parent, I think that was the most stressful sport I ever watched.  He played a lot of sports, most of them being team sports.  Sean was in the heavyweight division, and it was...

The Frantic Quest for Peace

The Frantic Quest For Peace

Frantic is not exactly the word that comes to mind when one thinks of peace. I use that term a bit tongue in cheek, but it helps to illustrate how important it is to come to a place of peace no matter what kind of...

The reality is that we have no control over others, no matter how much we love them.

If It Was Possible, It Would Be Done

Are you exhausting yourself in an effort to save someone from themselves?  I was desperate to save my daughter from herself - to battle her drug Beast for her.  Jordan* told me what I wanted to hear.  If I had a dollar for every time...

Nine Actions to Battle Your Beast

Each Beast is different.  My daughter’s Beast is drug addiction.  My two-headed Beast is enabling & codependency.  I love my daughter and was desperate to “help” her.  The problem was that I wanted to kill her Beast, but she had learned to live with it. ...