Lessons Are Everywhere & They Can Change Your Life - Valerie Silveira
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Lessons Are Everywhere & They Can Change Your Life

This week I went to Trader Joe’s to grab a few things. It was early because that’s when I like to shop – before the crowds. Even at the grocery store, I go early to avoid people.

But…God had other plans for me that morning; and it involved people!

God Had Other Plans for My Shopping Trip

As I stood in line, the guy ahead of me was chatting with the checker as she scanned his items. I didn’t catch all of the conversation and it was short because he only had a few items, but it was hard not to notice how happy and positive the checker was. She said she loved her job and that she had other jobs in administration, but she didn’t like it. It was worth doing a job you love.

She went on to say that too many people just want MORE. The thing about more, is that it leads to MORE! She said, more car payments, more debt…More.

The store was freezing that morning. I live in the desert, so maybe freezing is relative, but it was cold that morning, and I swear there must have been something wrong with the HVAC system at Trader Joe’s, because my fingers were practically numb.

“Are you cold,” I asked as she started to run my items through.

She said she was freezing, too. But, I quickly switched the conversation,

“Even so,” I said, “You have a great attitude!”

The checker went on to tell me that there is really only one thing you can control in this life – your attitude! I thought, she must be following my work! 

Another gal comes over to bag my groceries, and now we are all three in a rousing conversation about the power of attitude and the choice we have in every moment of every day. What is cool is that I am the motivational speaker and author, but she was the one giving the lesson!

She told me about the concerns she has in keeping her 16-year-old daughter safe, while realizing how little control she has. I mentioned that my daughter had become addicted to drugs and subsequently murdered. She came around the counter and hugged me.

Would You Like a Hug, Too?

We continued our conversation until my items were all bagged up and she could no longer ignore that next person in line. Before I grabbed my cart, she came around from behind the counter and hugged me again. We said our goodbyes, as the guy at the counter next to us said loudly,

“Hey, she got a hug.”

I moved my cart toward him and said, “Would you like a hug, too?”

He held out his big arms and I wrapped mine around him.

As I grabbed my cart and headed toward the door, I started to pass the woman at the next checkout counter and she was smiling at all of the commotion so I asked her if she wanted a hug and she said, “Yes!”

There were no more counters with anyone checking out, or I am sure it would have continued.

The Hugfest

Here is the best part of the story…

As the doors opened and I headed outside, it sounded like a party had erupted at Trader Joe’s! I took one quick look behind me and then pushed my cart to the parking lot with the biggest smile on my face.

Behind me were cheers, laughter, and people asking each other for a hug!!

None of this would have happened had I not noticed and complimented the checker on her attitude. I would not have experienced the joy of those few moments had I not asked a stranger if he wanted a hug. This story would never have been told if the checker had not made an incredible decision.

She decided to change her attitude. The single mother with the meth addicted ex-husband decided to fight. She decided NOT to be a victim. She turned her own life around, and was doing the best she could to raise her daughter, and to make meaning from the madness.

My only regret is that in all the commotion, I didn’t recall her name. But, that’s okay, I will be doing my shopping at that time in the morning, because I am not going to miss out on running into her again.

Every day we have a choice. In every situation, we get to decide what our attitude will be and how we will impact others. There are lessons everywhere. One simple trip the grocery story can change your life.



Valerie Silveira is an award-winning author, empowerment coach, international speaker and Beast slayer. Through the devastation of losing her daughter over and over to the addiction Beast, and finally losing her to a senseless murder, Valerie empowers others to stand up and fight for their lives against ANY of life’s Beasts. She is the creator of Nine Actions to Battle Your Beast and  the Still Standing Sisterhood membership program. Valerie uses her powerful tools to guide women in their quest for happiness, peace, and purpose. She builds up women of courage who stand strong against any Beast in their lives.

If you are ready to Stand, to be inspired and empowered: get a Nine Actions Empowerment Program. Stand Up & Fight. You are worth it!


  • Monette HOpkins

    Your blog gives me chills. And reminds me of a similar time in my own life.
    I was going to Kroger and 2 women were standing outside the door ringing The Bell. I heard them telling their stories and i hung around to give them hugs. Both were recovering addicts. I had just began teaching my class and shared my own story. We hugged again…and all went away crying. Ty for sharing. I needed this. Love u.❤💜

    November 19, 2018 at 11:24 am

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