Victimland is a hopeless and helpless state of mind; it is a powerless place.
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It Is Time to Leave Victimland – Cross Over the Border and Don’t Look Back

VictimlandVictimland is a hopeless and helpless state of mind; it is a powerless place. Becoming a victim may not have been your fault, but remaining one is your choice. The longer you remain a victim, the harder it will be to leave Victimland.

Disneyland is a theme park divided into eight different lands. Among them, you can visit Tomorrowland or Fantasyland. What you will not find in the “happiest place on earth,” is Victimland.

Victimland Is Far From Happy

In Victimland, you will be surrounded by like-minded people, so initially, this might seem like a magical place, but unlike lands at Disneyland, Victimland is far from happy. There is only one ride, and it is the Roller Coaster From Hell. The good news is that you get a guide on the singular ride in Victimland. The bad news is the guide will be your Beast.

Music is played throughout the land; songs of sadness, loss, loneliness, and fear.

There are several movie theaters strategically placed around the property, and they are open 24/7. You can pop into a theater without the need for a ticket and watch as the sad moments of your life repeat themselves on the big screen. If you get tired of watching your own story, you need only to move to another theater to watch a series of depressing movies from the lives of other inhabitants of Victimland.

Shame hangs in the air over this land, like a dense fog. The soot of guilt settles over everything and everyone. Day after day, another layer of shame covers the people of Victimland until their skin is thick with shame and guilt.

This is a place where nobody tries to “one-up” the other by telling stories that are bigger than the last. Rather, they are intent on “one-downing” each other. Each story becomes more depressing than the last.

Living Your Life as a Victim will keep you hopeless and helpless.

The longer you live in Victimland, the more confused you become. It was such a comforting place when you first arrived, but you feel lonelier and sadder than the day you got there. Gone is your hope of being happy again. Joy is a distant memory. Gone is your power.

You no longer look forward to seeing the people you once were so thankful to have found. Now, even though you are still surrounded by people who understand your story, you have never felt so alone.

It is Time to Leave Victimland

Living your life as a victim will keep you hopeless and helpless. There is zero power in Victimland. Nobody is happy there. Nobody is living courageously.

Stand up and claim your place as a victor. Cross back over the border, out of Victimland, and never look back.

From the Book, “Misery, You Don’t Get My Company: Finding the Courage to Be Happy Again.”
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Valerie Silveira is an Award-Winning Author, Empowerment Coach, International Speaker and Beast slayer. Through the devastation of losing her daughter over and over to the addiction Beast, and finally losing her to a senseless murder, Valerie empowers others to stand up and fight for their lives. She is the creator of Nine Actions to Battle Your Beast and  the Still Standing Sisterhood membership program. Valerie uses her books and Sisterhood to guide women in their quest for happiness, peace, and purpose. She builds up women of courage who stand strong against any Beast in their lives.

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