Moms of Addicts – Are You Playing God?
When someone you love is crashing, it is normal and natural to want to help. At some point, parents of addicts stop “helping” and begin playing God.
You don’t mean to play God; you don’t even know you are doing it.
This is not to say that we shouldn’t try to help or offer support. I am talking about the point where your addicted children are not really trying to help themselves, yet you keep strapping on that Supermom or Superdad Cape and rush to their rescue – every time.
When you pray for something, does God immediately grant your request?
When you drop to your knees and cry out for God to change a situation, does the situation suddenly change?
Each time you drop to your knees, does God rush in and pick you up?
Do you hear from God every time you ask?
We all wish the answer to each of those questions was, yes! The fact is, the answer is no. God knows what he is doing. If each time you asked for something, your request was granted, wouldn’t God be more like a Genie in a bottle?
God can do anything he wants, but what he really wants is for us to trust him; to lean on him. He wants for us to step out in faith. He wants us to grow. That wouldn’t be possible if all we did was send up a quick prayer and it was answered.
I cannot tell you how many times I have cried out to God, only to be met with silence. God is often silent. He is always with us, but he is often allowing us to learn a lesson, to take action, or to wait patiently.
When it comes to our kids, especially those living with the addiction Beast, we too often play God. Oh wait, we actually think we know more than God! Ouch, that hurts.
We rush in and try to save our children from themselves. We try to make their trials easier, so they won’t have to get stronger, or learn lessons. We jump every time they speak.
If God knows best and he doesn’t jump in and save you every time you ask, why do expect you should do that for your child?
Valerie Silveira is an Award-Winning Author, Empowerment Coach, International Speaker and Beast slayer. Through the devastation of losing her daughter over and over to the addiction Beast, and finally losing her to a senseless murder, Valerie empowers others to stand up and fight for their lives. She is the creator of Nine Actions to Battle Your Beast and the Still Standing Sisterhood membership program. Valerie uses her books and Sisterhood to guide women in their quest for happiness, peace, and purpose. She builds up women of courage who stand strong against any Beast in their lives.
Until her death in August 2016, Valerie chose to call her daughter Jamie, “Jordan.”